Thoughts on Sex, Intimacy, Touch & Connection
Personal reflections, ideas and inspiration from my work with sexuality, pleasure, relationships and the body.
For Men
What Did Men Teach You About Sex, Intimacy and Power?
When you enter my room you are bringing more than your current problem, desire or curiosity. You bring with you the stories, beliefs and experiences of the men who came before you and the men who surrounded you when you […]
For Men, Self-pleasuring
For Men – From Masturbation to Ecstatic Self-pleasuring
Men - Do You Know How to Pleasure Yourself? Of course you do, what a silly question you might say - “I’ve been masturbating for years!” However, what we learn to do (often from a young age!) and what we […]
Sexuality Coaching, Tantra
I Have Lost My Mojo
Over the last several years I have heard this quite a lot from men. And I often hear this before their GP does, before the conversation with a trusted friend, before the therapist or the counsellor and sometimes even before they’ve […]
Relationship, Tantra
Where Does Sex Go in Long-term Relationship?
A Sad But All Too Common Story I remember being in my late 30s, in a sexless relationship, with two children and a partner of ten years. The internet wasn't alive and kicking with endless advice. Instagram wasn't a thing, […]
Touch
When Touch Feels Difficult
Touch is a Universal Language Touch is our first language. We may not say our first recognisable word until we are almost 12 months old, so until then we are reliant on touch, sound and facial expression to know we […]
Relationship, Touch
How is Touch in Your Relationship?
An All Too Common Story I am a mother. Becoming a mother was one of the biggest, best and most challenging gifts I have been given. I touched both my babies as soon as they were born. I breast fed […]
Devotion, Massage, Tantra
The Difference Devotion Makes
What's REALLY Important to You in Life? Much of life is mundane, everyday tasks are repetitive. And yet we also live in a time when the pace of life is faster than ever before. Where predictability in the world is […]
Touch
Singles Need Touch Too
Living Alone The years of COVID lockdowns and isolation had a big impact on people who live alone. Alongside our cultural identity of independence, many people enjoy their own space and privacy while living alone. We also have societal rules […]
Touch
Who Deserves Touch?
EVERYONE Deserves Touch Touch is one of our most fundamental human needs. Science says that babies cannot thrive without eye contact, affirmation and holding. I BELIEVE THIS IS TRUE FOR ALL OF US. TOUCH can be: 💝 Soothing and calming to the […]