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How is Touch in Your Relationship?

Mar 21, 2026 | Devotional Tantra Massage

How is Touch in Your Relationship?

I am a mother.

Becoming a mother was one of the biggest, best and most challenging gifts I have been given.

I touched both my babies as soon as they were born. I breast fed them on demand.

They shared our bed. I cuddled them whenever I could.

I didn’t know I was meeting my need to touch by touching my babies. The indirect path.

My touch diminished with my partner as I generously gave my love and my touch to my children.

I didn’t know I was contributing to that.

That I was seeking and receiving unconditional love from my babies and withdrawing from my partner.

I wasn’t receiving touch from my partner and to be honest I wasn’t missing it (or so I thought).

I became closed, shut down and disconnected from him and me.

I wasn’t receiving or requesting emotional or sexual touch.

And the longer I didn’t get it, the less I realised I needed it.

As my children get older, they don’t need touch in the same ways. One lives away now.

My relationship didn’t make it.

If you are a single mother does anything here ring true for you? Maybe or maybe not. We are all different.

It may also be that you need loving connected touch but do not want a relationship right now. That’s fine. We are here at Devotional Tantra Massage and Four-handed Massage if you feel to call.

I am now in a new relationship. Mutual touch and sexual connection are a number one priority for me. When we are not experiencing both of these regularly, I know that we are not fully connected. We talk and take action to bring us close together again.

If you are a woman, or mother or a man who recognises this in yourself, your wife or partner, do get in touch.

What’s getting in the way? And what, if anything, do you want to do about this?

In dedication to loving touch, and celebratory devotion.

💝Harmony

Find out more about…

Embodied Sexuality Coaching with Harmony Isgolde

Devotional Tantra Massage with Harmony

Four-handed Massage with the team

Couples Four Handed Massage Sessions (with Peter and Harmony)

For more details send me an email or book a free 20 minute call with me.

If you book a call, there’s no pressure or expectation, simply a warm confidential chat where you can ask anything and be fully heard, which will help you decide what’s best for you.

Go on, give it a try…

To Your Pleasure

Harmony x

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The Difference Devotion Makes

Mar 17, 2026 | Devotional Tantra Massage

The Difference Devotion Makes

Much of life is mundane, everyday tasks are repetitive.

And yet we also live in a time when the pace of life is faster than ever before.

Where predictability in the world is at an all-time low and where without a faith, or a spiritual or religious practice to anchor hearts and bodies, life is challenging.

This is why I do what I do.

This is why Tantra is so important.

This is why Devotion and Ritual is about making things more special than everyday life.

This is why we provide sessions where YOU are nourished and held and celebrated without expectation or pressure to prove, perform or reciprocate.

A place where you are honoured for who you are rather than measured for what you are not.

I am dedicated to providing spaces beyond the everyday where YOU can drop into a different reality of space and time, beyond social media, the news and cultural norms.

A place of quiet, peace, and unconditional love and acceptance.

This is Tantra. This is Devotion. This can be a way of life.

Until we meet again try one of the following:

Light a candle as you sit down for a meal
Arrange a bunch of favourite flowers in a place where you will notice them
Take a few minutes just softly gazing at your partner, child, or pet
Sit in nature and slowly speak out loud to name all the details you see
Reach out and offer appreciation to a loved one
Look into your own eyes in a mirror for one minute

See you in a session soon.

In Love and Devotion 💝

Harmony

For more details send me an email or book a free 20 minute call with me.

If you book a call, there’s no pressure or expectation, simply a warm confidential chat where you can ask anything and be fully heard, which will help you decide what’s best for you.

Go on, give it a try…

To Your Pleasure

Harmony x

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Singles Need Touch Too

Mar 17, 2026 | Devotional Tantra Massage

Singles Need Touch Too

The years of COVID lockdowns and isolation had a big impact on people who live alone.

Alongside our cultural identity of independence, many people enjoy their own space and privacy while living alone.

We also have societal rules on who and how we touch, and over that period of isolation the opportunity for meaningful touch was taken away to a degree that we may never have imagined possible.

This left many people feeling lonely, anxious and more isolated as well as disconnected from their bodies.

Touch is powerful healing antidote which counteracts this sense of isolation. See our ‘Who Deserves Touch’ post for more on this.

Avoidance has been the dominant feature of relating, which in fact is the opposite of intimacy!

Some people have gone for weeks or months without handshakes, hugs or even touch between family and friends.

I recently had a client who told me that he hadn’t been hugged for more than two years!

Let’s hope those times are behind us.

Positive, healthy and meaningful touch is what we offer in a Four-handed Massage and a Devotional Tantra Massage.

And singles are REALLY REALLY welcome.

In dedication to your need for devoted touch.

💝 Harmony

For more details send me an email or book a free 20 minute call with me.

If you book a call, there’s no pressure or expectation, simply a warm confidential chat where you can ask anything and be fully heard, which will help you decide what’s best for you.

Go on, give it a try…

To Your Pleasure

Harmony x

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Who Deserves Touch?

Mar 17, 2026 | Devotional Tantra Massage

Who Deserves Touch?

EVERYONE deserves touch.

Touch is one of our most fundamental human needs.

Science says that babies cannot thrive without eye contact, affirmation and holding.

I BELIEVE THIS IS TRUE FOR ALL OF US.

TOUCH can be:

💝 Soothing and calming to the nervous system…we relax.

💝 Invigorating and help us to feel like we are alive and pulsating with life and vitality.

💝Pleasurable and Arousing as we stimulate the production of the hormones oxytocin, dopamine and serotonin, otherwise known as the feel-good hormones. In turn cortisol, the stress hormone is inhibited.

💝 A way of decreasing pain and inflammation (in the heart, mind and body).

When touched we feel wanted, we feel valued and we have a sense of belonging, of being enough.

EVERYONE deserves touch.

Did you know that?

Anxiety and Depression are less prevalent among those who receive loving, safe and connected touch. Our immune systems are strengthened and we experience less anxiety and depression.

Overall – we are happier and we heal, both physically and emotionally, when we are appropriately and generously touched.

EVERYONE deserves touch.

In Devotional Tantric Massage I take this further:

I HONOUR your body

I CELEBRATE your body

I LOVE your body unconditionally

YOU are ENOUGH

YOU are welcome as you are, regardless of your age, size, gender, sexual orientation, societal status or not, financial success or not, family or no family, sexually thriving or sexually challenged, single or in partnership *

I offer you EYE GAZING, POSITIVE AFFIRMATION, NOURISHING TOUCH AND HOLDING.

I think that EVERYONE deserves touch, and YOU are one of those people…so you deserve it too!

Take a few moments, maybe with a pen and paper and ask yourself:

What touch am I most wanting and needing right now?

How would my life be better if I received this?

Drop me a line and let me know and let’s embark on this journey together.

EVERYONE deserves touch.

With Deep Love,

Harmony

* There are of course some medical, physical and emotional health questions I ask to ensure that we are helping you rather than putting you or ourselves at risk.

For more details send me an email or book a free 20 minute call with me.

If you book a call, there’s no pressure or expectation, simply a warm confidential chat where you can ask anything and be fully heard, which will help you decide what’s best for you.

Go on, give it a try…

To Your Pleasure

Harmony x

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